I had such an awesome talk with someone recently - yesterday, really! I thought I should share...
So often, we go through things in relationships (particularly marriage) that we think no one can relate to or understand. However, I can guarantee you that at least one person in the world can relate. So it's important to live your life in such a way that others can learn from it. Now I'm not in any way implying that you must pretend to have a perfect marriage/relationship. Lord knows we all have our fair share of challenges - some of which we ourselves are the guilty party! But there's such a grace in sharing your life with others. It is both liberating and encouraging.
Now onto yesterday's conversation...
I was chatting with a young man who has intentions of getting married in the near future. Both he and his lady are still studying, but he knows exactly what he wants his life to look like. I was absolutely impressed by his desire to be a godly boyfriend, despite all the temptations that life presents. It reminded me of our courtship days! So you can imagine my excitement when I was able to share with him that there is hope! It would've been even better if Kgabo was there as well, but I rate I did okay in the "big sis giving advice" department. Ha-ha!
We talked about everything from love languages (primary and secondary needs) to saving for the future to honest, open conversations with one's partner to planning the wedding. We even talked about rings! Those who know me well will know how excited I became when we spoke about wedding planning! This is truly the one thing besides my God and my family that lights up my life; I know I have found my purpose. I'm passionate about beautiful, dreamy weddings and, most importantly, long-lasting godly marriages. That is the legacy I want to leave behind for my children. And for all my brothers and sisters in the world! MARRIAGE IS FROM GOD SO IT'S MEANT TO BE AWESOME!
So please don't stop sharing. Talk about your relationships - the highlights as well as lowlights. So many people can learn from your mistakes and milestones as a couple. Take it upon yourself to mentor younger couples - whether by speech or action. Each testimony brings hope and life to any relationship. And to those who are not sure about how to conduct their relationships, ask! Help will surely come. Keep your actions in the light so that you always have a spiritual covering. In that way, the devil has no hold over you!
Side note...
Enter a relationship with an open mind. We have not all walked the same path. Let's avoid being judgmental since no one is good. Give your partner room to open up without feeling like he/she is being judged. And if we're aiming for long-lasting marriages, let's avoid unequally yoked relationships.
Word.
Mrs DeeDK
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